Dine for the Charleston

(I HAVE asked this question in the dining out section, but haven’t gotten any answers…Theres probably more people here who can help me out. Haha and it’s SORTA based on LGBT )

I Live in Christchurch – New Zealand.
There is this Cafe by the mall that I really enjoyed a dish from.

I’m gonna go there again next week for lunch and I want to tip the male waiter, as he, and the meal were very nice. But what do i Do exactly? The employees are sometimes in the kitchen area, at the counter, or serving plates. Usually all at once, like constantly changing.

Do I hope that the guy comes along to serve my meal, then give him the cash?
Do I finish the meal and then go up to the counter and ask for him or something? xD
Or do i Ask for him to be my waiter then give him the money after he serves me?

PS: I’m Bi btw and think he’s really handsome, polite and was actually smiling. I find it hard to smile when working, doing the same thing over and over, y’ know.
Not that i’m trying to hook up or anything xD Just trying to be polite back. =)

(I’ve never tipped anyone in my life)
I don’t think they have tip jars…

And can you explain how i give the tip? More detail please? Urgh. That’s what i’m trying to find out, gawd

If you know his name, request that he be your server, tell them that he gave you great service last time and that you want him to serve you again. After the meal hand him the tip and thank him for his service. when you hand it to him, make sure you hold his hand for just a second too long while thanking him, and also make eye contact with him. These things will make you stand out to him, and the next time you are eating there, he will remember you.

4 Responses

1. completely curiousツ Says:
   February 14th, 2010 at 8:08 pm

   i say just give it to him after the meal, usually, i put tips in the person’s tip jar or something
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2. Gidge Says:
   February 14th, 2010 at 8:29 pm

   I bartend in the US, and I frequently have guest approach the bar, hand me money, and thank me for my service to them (sometimes flirtatiously). They could’ve just left the money on the table where they sat, but they wanted to be sure to personally thank me. I take it as a sincere compliment.
   As far as having a crush on your server, I’d hand it to him personally, and make eye contact to see what his response is. If it’s positive, talk to him next time you go there to gauge further where things might go. If he’s straight, then oh well… Some straight guys do eat up the attention though.
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3. Tee Says:
   February 14th, 2010 at 8:39 pm

   When you pay for your meal, you tip. If he hasnt been receiving any tips from you he probably just sees you as that nasty guy who doesn’t tip. But then, most kids your age don’t tip AT ALL, which the waiters hate (that their parents havent taught them any better). Usually waiters RUN AWAY from from kids like that and don’t want to wait for them just because… they don’t tip. At least that is where I live on the other side of the pond.
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   Me, i know waiters.

4. ziggy Says:
   February 14th, 2010 at 8:57 pm

   If you know his name, request that he be your server, tell them that he gave you great service last time and that you want him to serve you again. After the meal hand him the tip and thank him for his service. when you hand it to him, make sure you hold his hand for just a second too long while thanking him, and also make eye contact with him. These things will make you stand out to him, and the next time you are eating there, he will remember you.
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